4. "Baby Shark duh duh duh duh...” Like it or love it, the song is doing plenty for your child's brain development. Music sparks up many areas in the brain linked to language, rhythm, emotion and spatial awareness to name a few. As repetitive - if not annoying - as some songs are, they are helping your child to practice and develop memory skills. This is actually a great tip when trying to teach them something new - put into song or rhythm and you'll have them remembering to flush the toilet and wash their hands in no time...in theory!
5. "But they won't remember that!" - never underestimate the power of the mind. OK, so children don't necessarily hold vivid memories of events that occurred while they were a baby, but their brain will have wired a pathway based upon that experience. In simple terms, when "x" happens the brain responds. When "x" happens again or situations that are similar, the brain has created a "how to deal with an x situation" pathway/set of rules. These pathways remain and can sit in the subconscious mind until the next time they are triggered or called upon. If you ever question why you are taking a baby to sensory classes or swimming lessons, don't underestimate the learning and connections you are creating in their brain that may be sparked again at a later date. Likewise, children that have experienced adversity in early life carry it, more so in comparison to positive experiences as the brain perceives significant adversity as threats so it makes a firm decision to make sure it won't let those pathways fade away in case they are needed again. Positively, we can replace these pathways with repetition of positive experiences that now teach the brain new responses!
Hope this helps explain your childs behaviour in a little more detail and you can forgive yourself (and your child!) for their responses!
(We at Iris Dares deeply believe in child developement and part of that is getting outside and putting the Ipad down! Run, jump and twirl in our freedom giving dresses!)
Stacey Painter has been a therapeutic social worker for children and families for 12 years. Since stepping out of the fire-pit of social work, she has transferred her mental health knowledge and expertise into supporting individuals and couples with fertility struggles, pregnancy, birth and early parenting. Stacey has her own company @mamaknowsbest and its sister company, @thelancashirefertilitycoach